Self-care is when others tend to their own needs as a way to avoid illness on multiple levels. There are various ways to do it and it is vital to know beneficial strategies.
Drink a cup of tea
Self-care is knowing when to sit still, make noise, go slow, move forward, and let things go. Most of all, it’s knowing self and what helps one to be their best self. Take care of yourself.
Another facet of self-care is to avoid situations that are contrary to being your best. These encounters can bring noise, danger, violence, agitation, tension, or unpleasant feelings. Honestly, people, places, and things can interfere with self-care.
Ultimately, self-care is an investment. Make sufficient deposits that enable you to withdraw. These deposits can be affirmations, time alone, nurturing your body and soul, and a healing environment.
It is important to identify times for self-care. One may have to make a date with self. There is nothing wrong with that. Mark, your calendar to take of yourself in the same manner as you do for a meeting, a trip, or family gathering. It’s necessary to do something you like, that helps you to reset and re-energize.
Just as the weather has seasons, life too has them. At the time of transition, it can trigger a multitude of feelings such as anxiety, fear, confusion, anger, etc.
Transitions are a time of change that requires adjustments
The transition can be beautiful or ugly; however, your response to it makes all the difference. It is a time of reflection and assessment.
Are you prepared? Are you ready?
Like the legend of the phoenix, it all ends with beginnings.
…a song reflecting my current peace, love, and health journey.
If it don’t help me grow, I don’t need it.
If it don’t help me glow, I don’t see it.
If it don’t help me flow, let it go.
I’ve been working to be my best self. Growing, glowing, and flowing require effort and discipline. One necessary quality is a desire to remain focused despite distractions.
Reprinted from NJSpotlight. July 9, 2024. Written by Taylor Jung, Social Justice Writer
Harm reduction: In Paterson, a world of assistance in one small building. A lifeline to social services — and personal connections — for people with substance use issues
Potential for change
Harm reduction refers to programs and policies that help reduce negative consequences for people who use substances.
The goal is to save lives – not force detox or abstinence unless the person wants help.
Harm reduction includes teaching safe substance use and safe sex practices and helping connect people to social services.
Drug policy experts say harm reduction helps reduce substance-related deaths.
It’s a cold and blustery March day in Paterson, with mist saturating the air. The usual steady bustle of traffic and pedestrians on Broadway is absent.
That is, all except for one building across from the city’s columned public library, where there is a constant flow of people entering and exiting. The black awning reads Black Lives Matter Paterson Harm Reduction Center.
The building is inconspicuous, but inside, a world of assistance awaits. At the center, people who use substances can receive help with almost anything they need — applying for food assistance, signing up for ID cards, scheduling doctor’s appointments or even calling family members. And sometimes, the center is just a place of brief respite to charge a phone or drink a cup of coffee, which is immediately offered upon entering.
But one thing that will never happen at this center: a push into treatment.
The center’s goal is to reduce harm, like its name says, through preventing overdoses, mitigating the spread of infectious diseases and generally helping someone with almost any social work services they need.
The center’s program coordinator Bre Azañedo said that all those fall under the definition of harm reduction: culturally competent nutrition, sex education, reproductive health, health insurance, medical care, mental health services or access to clean clothing.
“If you don’t look at every little thing with a harm reduction lens …[the assistance] doesn’t help people who may be experiencing substance use or families of the people who are using these substances,” said Azañedo.
In this sixth installment of The Change Project, NJ Spotlight News looks at how the harm reduction model has gained momentum and is being applied by this grassroots organization in Paterson. The center, and many others like it, are seen as powerful tools during a pervasive overdose crisis — and just as important, powerful alternatives to the law enforcement-centered “war on drugs” approach that criminalizes drug use and remains a lasting legacy.
Earlier this year, the Murphy administration announced plans to further invest in harm reduction services in the state, including at BLM Paterson, where program leaders say the money will go to mobile outreach.
Over the course of the intervening months, NJ Spotlight News followed the journey.
The origin of harm reduction
Modern harm reduction was born out of the HIV/AIDS epidemic, where LGBTQIA communities formulated disease-prevention strategies and pushed for humanity instead of stigmatization. Harm reductionists also say that the modality has some roots in the civil rights era, where the Black Panthers created an extensive network of mutual aid to counteract deep socioeconomic inequity.
By definition, harm reduction is made up of all evidence-based techniques to keep people healthy, said Sandy Gibson, a harm reduction practitioner and professor at The College of New Jersey.
That can be “HIV testing, hep C testing, providing treatment for syphilis, helping people get IDs, providing them with a mailing address, so the forms can be sent to them or employment forms can be sent to them,” she said in an interview with NJ Spotlight News.
The harm reduction approach has gained momentum across the country as local governments and organizations have specifically sought to address the ongoing drug overdose crisis.
Nationwide, the rate of drug overdoses has climbed dramatically over the last 20 years, and the rise of opioids including fentanyl, and the veterinary sedative xylazine, have only heightened the risk of death. The number of people who died in 2021 from an opioid-related overdose was six times the number in 1991, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Over 100,000 people died of drug-related overdoses nationwide in 2022 alone.
In New Jersey, overdose deaths dramatically increased from 2014 to 2018. They peaked in 2021, when 3,144 people died, and there have been signs of progress, starting in 2022, when overdose deaths decreased overall to 3,054. Suspected drug overdoses continued to level off in the first half of 2024, compared to the same months in 2022 and 2023. At the same time, state data shows that overdose deaths among Black and Latino residents continued to increase over the last several years.
All this data creates a complex picture of the crisis, leaving experts and others grappling with how to best help people who use substances. But there does seem to be growing agreement that the country needs to look away from the law-enforcement approach that punishes people to one that helps people stay alive.
“A big quote we often say is ‘Dead people do not recover,’” said Gibson, the TCNJ professor.
What harm reduction looks like
At BLM Paterson Harm Reduction Center, the guiding principle is to meet people where they are. The center itself is small — just one room with a couch, coffee table, dining table, TV and a snack cabinet — but it provides a world of services to around 20 participants a day.
The center is open Monday through Friday, providing dinners or lunches to those in need. BLM Paterson also holds monthly grocery and clothing distributions where people can receive free food, clothes and health care from a county-run mobile van.
That all the center’s staff members come from Paterson is, they say, an essential part of harm reduction work because it builds trust with program participants.
One participant, Sue, told NJ Spotlight News that Azañedo was kind enough to print photos of her children for her to keep. At one point, they even hung on a wall at the center, alongside photos of other kids and people’s pets. (Editor’s note: The names of program participants were changed to maintain their anonymity.)
“You become attached to the people you work with,” said one staff member, who asked not to be identified. “Because a lot of us have family members who have substance abuse.”
The harm reduction model is commonly associated with needle exchange programs or the distribution of naloxone, a drug that reverses opioid overdoses, including of fentanyl. Those programs are all proven to also reduce the transmission of hepatitis C and HIV.
But while those examples are critical ways to reduce harm, they’re only the “tip of the iceberg,” said Azañedo.
“That would be putting a Band-Aid on a really big wound,” she said.
Azañedo and others discussed how harm reduction includes a broad range of assistance, from tangible help in finding social services to more subtle and personal connections. BLM Paterson’s mission is also rooted in social justice and advocacy, one where participants and those who serve them all feel they belong.
Here, people aren’t treated like anonymous clients, they said, but like family, a friend or a neighbor — because they could be family, a friend or a neighbor. Anyone who walks through their doors is greeted by their first name.
Every day at the center can look different, one staff member said. On some days, someone could need help finding temporary shelter. On others, they might need help getting to a doctor’s appointment. Or simply, they might need a phone to call their family to let them know they are OK.
There are also weekly support group sessions where people can discuss what they’re going through and what their needs are.
Jennifer, a program participant, said the center’s staff can connect people to a plethora of services. It just depends on what one is looking to accomplish. They helped connect her to a drug treatment program, she said.
“If you have a drug problem or anything like that, they find you a facility or whatever the goal is. If you’re homeless, they try to help you find somewhere to live,” Jennifer said. “Basically, it’s a good place. Because if you really want help, they’ll help.”
“They’re open, and they’re there. It’s up to you to walk through that door,” Jennifer added.
BLM in Paterson
The Black Lives Matter movement began in 2013 as a response to police killings of Black Americans but has broadened to advocate for systemic racial justice and anti-racism.
Black Lives Matter Paterson has been working in the city since 2016 to facilitate racial equity and community building. Volunteers help carry out youth programs, mutual aid and advocacy.
At the height of the COVID-19 pandemic, the organization saw the need to distribute masks, food and other items to people in need. Eventually, that turned into distributing naloxone.
“And then we began doing our outreach [into the community]. Because we understood that a lot of times people don’t have the ability to come from certain areas, especially when you’re unhoused,” Azañedo said.
As the pandemic continued, BLM Paterson volunteers went out in the city where homeless people lived.
They taught those groups how to use naloxone and how to take care of wounds. That’s when the organization began to understand the need for harm-reduction work in the city.
“[We realized] now we need a place to be because in a lot of other spaces, you need to be sober in order to attend a lot of programs,” said Azañedo. “People are not allowed to just be.”
In early 2023, the organization opened its center on Broadway to be nearest to the people who needed it most.
On that cold and rainy day last March, Sue walked in and said one of the best parts of the center is that she can just be herself. She recalled how she was looking for some true-crime books — her favorite — at the library across the street when a member of the security staff there asked if she was OK.
“I was browsing the true-crime section and I turned around. This guy is just standing there and staring at me … like it’s just so strange for him to see somebody trying to read,” she said.
But when she comes into the center, she feels relaxed and not judged. The center helped her when she was pregnant last summer, she said. Having that support system was important, she said; it’s “everything you need in life.”
“Especially since my parents disowned me because of my addiction. And the one person that didn’t disown me, my sister, died. So to have really somebody there supporting you and accepting you and not judging you for the way you’re living and lifestyle means more than love,” Sue said.
The ‘war on drugs’
Much of the country’s drug policy and treatments have been informed by what was dubbed as the “war on drugs” in the 1980s and ’90s, a decades-long national approach that promoted punitive measures and abstinence to curb substance use. Harm reduction experts say that criminalization became another way to use systemic racism as a cudgel. This led to the overpolicing of communities like Paterson, a once-industrial hub of now 160,000, the third largest city in New Jersey. Six in 10 residents are Hispanic and another 1 in 5 are Black.
Zellie Thomas, who leads BLM Paterson, said the state and federal governments in all their policing efforts haven’t been investing in strategies that work in cities like Paterson, and that solutions to “addressing the opioid crisis … are very rarely presented or invested here in the city of Paterson.”
“The way that we got here in Paterson,” he said, referring to socioeconomic divestment in his city, “it wasn’t something that was just from one policy, or one bad politician. This is something that has been going on for decades.”
What the “war on drugs” did, and continues to do, is create a cycle of criminalization, said Ami Kachalia of ACLU New Jersey. And that cycle causes long-term trauma, she said, not just to the individuals, but to families and communities at large.
“While [the “war on drugs”] may have been done under the guise of public safety or public health, in practice it was really about criminalizing particular communities, particularly communities of color, low-income communities and other people that were really [pushing] for much-needed social change,” Kachalia said.
The numbers bear out across the nation, and New Jersey stands out.
According to New Jersey Policy Perspective, a social justice think tank, in a 2021 report, the state leads the country in racial disparities in incarceration and “incarcerated a higher percentage of people due to the drug war than any state in the nation by 1989.”
Jenna Mellor, head of the New Jersey Harm Reduction Coalition and author of the report, said she found that Black residents were “3.3 times more likely to be arrested for drug war violations than their white peers, despite white people both using and selling criminalized drugs at higher rates.” Black residents were also 12 times more likely to be incarcerated than their white counterparts.
“There was an inflection point in the late ’80s, early ’90s, where New Jersey policymakers — despite outcry from public health experts and community leaders — chose to aggressively punish and police people who use drugs,” said Mellor in an interview with NJ Spotlight News.
NJ’s approach
New Jersey has moved toward harm-reduction policies in recent years under the Murphy administration. During this time, naloxone has become more readily available — the state has provided over 600,000 naloxone doses to law enforcement and community groups.
In 2022, Murphy signed a law that allowed the state Department of Health to take control of authorizing needle exchange sites. Previously, municipalities could veto the sites, and only seven had signed on. Since then, the Health Department has increasingly authorized more harm-reduction centers across the state.
And in February, Murphy also announced initial plans for the $1 billion the state received in funds from settlement of the federal class-action lawsuits with opioid distributors and manufacturers to help mitigate the opioid crisis.
The plan was put together alongside harm reductionists like Mellor and Azañedo. In the next two years, the state will use $24 million of the funding to expand harm reduction services at centers and $17 million to invest in housing and shelter programs.
“We have more than doubled the number of harm reduction approved sites in the last year. We have now expanded decriminalization of supplies,” said state Health Commissioner Kaitlin Baston at a recent conference on harm reduction. “This means we can do drug checking and meeting people where they are, bringing them in for the support they need.”
Those who have advocated for the harm reduction strategies are taking note of the high-profile support, finally.
“There are so many people working right now to [expand harm reduction] and to try to make it successful, and make sure that our harm reduction expansion sticks to harm reduction’s roots,” Mellor said.
Back on Broadway
Winter has turned to spring, and that cold, blustery March day was far away. On a weekday in May, the sun baked the streets and Broadway was bustling.
Azañedo emerged from behind her desk and proudly said, “We’re now authorized by the state!”
The state’s approval of the BLM center to receive its funding was a several-month process, and she said the center will be able to now have a van to provide sterile syringes, collect used ones, and meet with people directly, wherever they are in Paterson.
The work won’t stop there. BLM Paterson would like to get a house where they can provide more wraparound services and meet participants’ other basic needs, like the ability to take a shower.
“Just a place where someone can come in and take a shower. That is so important. Because it makes you feel better,” said Azañedo. “Folks deserve that.”
I would say, it depends upon the ingredients and who’s cooking. Eating healthy requires effort and it can also taste good. So I say yes, good eating is healthy. Make sure all food groups are represented on your plate.
Vegetarian Pasta Salad
1 lb box of pasta (penne or spaghetti)
1 small red onion1 small bell pepper
1 small zucchini1 cucumber
8 oz of broccoli florets
8 oz of cherry tomatoes
1 8 oz bottle of zesty Italian dressing
1 8 oz bottle of Balsamic vinegar dressing
dash of black pepper
casserole dish or aluminum pan
using a 5-quart pot, fill the pot with cold water 3/4 full, put salt and oil in the water, boil the cold water until it has a rolling boil, pour in the 1 lb of pasta (break spaghetti 3 ways) in the pot, and let boil for 15 – 20 minutes, until tender.
Using a colander, pour the cooked pasta into the colander to drain the water. Let cool
dice the red onion, bell pepper, zucchini, and cucumber
cut cherry tomatoes in quarters
cut broccoli florets into bite-size parts
mix the vegetables (onion, pepper, zucchini, cucumber, broccoli, and tomato) together
mix the pasta and vegetables together, pour the Italian and Balsamic vinegar dressing into the pasta and vegetable mixture, and stir until the Italian and Balsamic vinegar dressing covers the pasta and vegetable mix
season with a dash of black pepper
pour the completed mix into the dish, put in the refrigerator for 2 hours for cooling
It is summertime, so use the above recipe to eat healthy and good
How Respectful Dialogue Can Reduce Mental Health Stigma
Silva, M. (2022, July 7).
This month we celebrate National Minority Mental Health Awareness Month, so it is appropriate that we consider the impact of our words as we work to reduce the stigma around mental health issues. This is especially true as it pertains to minority populations. Words matter, because in our choice of words we guide others down positive or negative pathways in how they respond and think about a given issue. Moments matter, because on any given day we have hundreds of opportunities to choose words that create awareness and educate others to better possibilities. As professionals, we often spend a great deal of time in preparing for public presentations, being thoughtful about the words we choose, how we present and all the other factors we account for as we hope to educate, change perspectives or invite healthy discussion. Too often we lack the same amount of attention in our conversations and brief interactions that we have with staff, other colleagues and sometimes patients throughout the day. Recently, AHA created a stigma-reduction campaign entitled “People Matter, Words Matter.” This campaign includes posters that provide excellent examples of how one might respond to some examples of language that does not demonstrate cultural or racial awareness.
Yale New Haven Health has a developed a broad array of learning resources around diversity, equity and inclusion. I believe the most valuable and effective program that has been implemented is the B.R.A.V.E. program. The acronym stands for Bold/Relevant/Authentic/Valuable/Educational. The program was developed with the goal of creating a safe space for conversations around racism, racial equality and racial healing, but the concepts are easily expanded and applied to reducing the stigma of mental health in the cultural and ethnic minority populations. The steps are essentially:
Reinforce the purpose – create a safe space to share concerns and feelings around comments that you hear.
Set agreements to encourage open and respectful dialogue – listen, acknowledge discomfort, be compassionate and avoid negative language. Assume good intent and value the other person’s feelings.
Open the conversation with your personal story and engage others – share how the experience impacted you and invite others to do the same.
Bring the conversation to a close and thank them for the courage to share and listen – encourage people to think about what they can do to impact change and act.
The next time you are walking down the hallway and overhear negative comments, take the moment, choose the words, and have a brave conversation.
The origin of Memorial Day trace back to 1865 when freed slaves started a tradition to honor fallen Union soldiers and to celebrate emancipation and commemorate those who died for that cause. ❤️🖤💚🫶🏼 In 1865, black people in Charleston, South Carolina, held a series of memorials & rituals to honor unnamed fallen Union soldiers and celebrate the struggle against slavery. One of the largest memorial took place on May 1st 1865. ❤️🖤💚🫶🏼 As the civil war ended, confederates had converted the city’s Washington Race Course & Jockey Club into an outdoor prison. Union captives were kept in horrid conditions and at least 257 died of disease and were quickly buried in a mass grave behind the grandstand. ❤️🖤💚🫶🏼 After the Confederate evacuation of Charleston, black workmen went to the mass grave site, reburied the Union dead properly & built a high fence around the cemetery. ❤️🖤💚🫶🏼 The freed black people, who then, in cooperation with white missionaries and teachers, staged a parade of 10,000 on the track. The procession was led by 3,000 black schoolchildren carrying armloads of roses and singing the Union marching song “John Brown’s Body.” ❤️🖤💚🫶🏼 Several hundreds of black women followed with baskets of flowers, wreaths & crosses. Then came black men marching in, followed by contingents of Union infantrymen. Within the cemetery black children’s choir sang before a series of black ministers read from the Bible. ❤️🖤💚🫶🏼 After the dedication, the crowd dispersed into the infield and did what many of us do on Memorial Day: enjoyed picnics, listened to speeches and watched soldiers drill ❤️🖤💚🫶🏼 Among the full brigade of Union infantrymen participating were the famous 54th Massachusetts and the 34th and 104th United States Colored Troops, who performed a special double-columned march around the gravesite. #blackexcellence ❤️🖤💚🫶🏼 #MemorialDay
Since my last blog post, there have been challenges, transitions, tears, disappointments, answered prayers, increased self-awareness, growth, new assignments, connections, laughter, excitement, and expectations for the best outcome in the next year, 2024. My next season will be more than I can imagine.
I must say I choose to end balanced, gentle, and strong. I’m ending on a gentle note because I fought to keep pushing and need to rest so I may recover. AND, that’s the same reason I choose to end strong because I’m still standing to tell the story of making it over.
2024 will be a year of answered prayers, prosperous outcomes, harvest reaping, and so much more.
The United States has the highest maternal mortality rate of any high-income country and significant disparities in outcomes – and the crisis is only worsening: the maternal mortality rate in 2021 was 89 percent higher than the rate in 2018. The Black Maternal Health Momnibus Act will address this crisis through historic investments that comprehensively address every driver of maternal mortality, morbidity, and disparities in the United States.
Bill summary
The Black Maternal Health Momnibus Act includes 13 individual bills that will:
Make critical investments in social determinants of health that influence maternal health outcomes, like housing, transportation, and nutrition.
Extend WIC eligibility in the postpartum and breastfeeding periods.
Provide funding to community-based organizations that are working to improve maternal health outcomes and promote equity.
Increase funding for programs to improve maternal health care for veterans.
Grow and diversify the perinatal workforce to ensure that every mom in America receives maternal health care and support from people they trust.
Improve data collection processes and quality measures to better understand the causes of the maternal health crisis in the United States and inform solutions to address it.
Support moms with maternal mental health conditions and substance use disorders.
Improve maternal health care and support for incarcerated moms.
Invest in digital tools to improve maternal health outcomes in underserved areas.
Promote innovative payment models to incentivize high-quality maternity care and non-clinical support during and after pregnancy.
Invest in federal programs to address maternal and infant health risks during public health emergencies.
Invest in community-based initiatives to reduce levels of and exposure to climate change-related risks for moms and babies.
Promote maternal vaccinations to protect the health of moms and babies.
On Wednesday, September 20, 2023, I joined my sorority, Zeta Phi Beta Sorority Inc., to advocate for the Momnibus Act.
Madame President Dr. Stacie N.C. Grant and I
Madame 1st Vice-President Gina Merritt-Epps, Esq. and I
Madame Atlantic Regional Director Beverly S. Tathum, Esq. and I
Dr. Viva White aka sistateacher
Please contact and write your elected officials urging them to pass the Momnibus Act so all 13 Bills become law. Also, encourage similar legislation in your home state because all politics are local.
My home state: NJ
NJ continues to address Black Maternal Health.
Combating New Jersey’s Maternal and Infant Mortality Crisis
On Maternal Health Awareness Day 2019, First Lady Tammy Murphy launched Nurture NJ, a statewide initiative committed to transforming New Jersey into the safest and most equitable state in the nation to deliver and raise a baby.
Currently, New Jersey is ranked 29th in the nation for maternal deaths[1] and has one of the widest racial disparities for both maternal and infant mortality. A Black mother in New Jersey is almost seven times more likely than a white mother to die from maternity-related complications, and a Black baby is nearly three times more likely than a white baby to die before his or her first birthday. For Hispanic mothers, the rate is 3.5 compared with white mothers and for Hispanic babies, the rate is nearly 1.5.[2] This is completely unacceptable. We should not be losing any mothers or babies in childbirth.
At the root of these disparities lies generations of systemic racism and its effect on social determinants of health. These factors have historically limited women and infants, especially Black moms and babies, from having the opportunity to simply be healthy.
To change course on this abhorrent reality, we are making long-term, sustainable changes to completely transform the maternal health landscape of our state and every fundamental element influencing a mother’s life and health.
In January 2021, the First Lady unveiled the Nurture NJ Maternal and Infant Health Strategic Plan – a blueprint to reduce New Jersey’s maternal mortality by 50 percent over five years and eliminate racial disparities in birth outcomes. This plan was the culmination of over a year of in-person and virtual meetings with hundreds of critical stakeholders, including national public health experts, New Jersey state departments and agencies, health systems, physicians, doulas, community organizations, and mothers and families.
Nurture NJ encompasses the entire work of the Murphy Administration on maternal and infant health. In addition to the Strategic Plan, Nurture NJ’s ongoing efforts include over 43 pieces of maternal and infant health legislation signed by Governor Murphy, funding for groundbreaking programs and policies, an annual Black Maternal and Infant Health Leadership Summit, a Family Festival event series, and the development of a first-of-its-kind Maternal and Infant Health Innovation Center to continue the work beyond this administration.
Together, we are solving this crisis and will make New Jersey the safest, most equitable place in the nation to deliver and raise a baby.
Here are some helpers listed healer, socialwork, teacher, educator, EMT, nurse, doctor, healthcare, paramedic, counselor, therapist, attorney, police, and accountant
Setting and establishing boundaries are important for your health, healing, progress, process, and growth.
Like the Legend of the Phoenix, it all ends with beginnings.
According to legend, each Phoenix lived for 500 years, and only one Phoenix lived at a time. Just before its time was up, the Phoenix built a nest and set itself on fire. Then, a new Phoenix would rise from the ashes. Both the Greeks and Egyptians associated the Phoenix with the sun.
The Phoenix is associated with positive aspects such as strength, determination, passion, resilience, and compassion.
It is important to recognize endings, beginnings, and transitions to the next season. These times may be a matter of life and death on various levels, spiritually, physically, mentally, financially, professionally, socially, etc.
Be mindful, focus, and pay attention. Let your new beginnings be truth and light for others to follow without being dismayed.
A reset is to start again, AND starting again can be different depending on the situation.
Who wants to reset their cell phone? Not me because it removes personal preferences that were set up. Also, it returns to the basic function of the phone. Who wants basic? Not me. Yes, I like my preferences.
Preferences. May be the problem
Another opportunity to do something is a benefit. Take advantage of chance that may only come once.
So when things are contrary to a calm, pleasant, peaceful, nurturing, helpful, energetic, supportive, lifting, happy, or loving atmosphere, it is time for a RESET.
No matter the time of the day, it’s not too early, nor is it too late. Dare to be different.
Opportunities are presented, and we question it as if it is for another. However, it fell into your hands based on previous investments into your talent, skill, knowledge, and experience.
Imposter Syndrome
Some begin to believe the opportunity is unreal, and they are frauds. Continued questioning of whether they belong and are undeserving of the opportunity. But, the naysayers were defied.
Reaping and sowing is a principle that operates. Expect to receive what you give! The gift, opportunity, or advancement may turn up from unexpected sources with the element of surprise.
EXPECT
Expect the best. Accept the reward from your investment and efforts demonstrated.